Whats wrong with being mute..

MahoNPC · Post by **MahoNPC** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:11 am

The reason is VERY personal..I rather not talk about it,so just back off of the subject ><

bountyhunterryouko · Post by **bountyhunterryouko** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:16 am

*pets* oh poor you. some ppl are really mean about stuff like that. Though I don't see why. I mean I'm critized (stupid long hard to spell words) at school because of my speech inpedament (another one GAH!!) but yah i'd just ignor (thats ones even short) them I mean every one is great you know. where different, and we can't help it. but we do have to accept it.

MahoNPC · Post by **MahoNPC** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:18 am

hehe..I am good at making cosplay costumes and drawing =)

Sora · Post by **Sora** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:21 am

For MahoNPC's privacy, I suggest you back off the subject and do not harass her about it.

Different people have different ways of dealing with pain or trauma. Whether you think it's not the 'best' way of dealing with it makes no difference, and it helps not to pass your judgement on things like this.

However, if it -is- a sensitive subject, MahoNPC, I suggest you not bring it up in the first place. People here are curious, you can't blame them for that. If you don't want to discuss it, then don't bring it up at all.

As for your original question, people do that because they want to help. They assume, out of the goodness of their heart, that things are more difficult for you because you cannot speak, and therefor want to make it easier on you. They want to ease your perceived suffering, and it's not fair to them if you get mad at them for wanting to help.

Sure, they don't often ask first, and it's an uncomfortable situation to deal with someone who is 'different', because that is human nature. However, at least they aren't running away from you and calling you a freak (for the most part.. those people will get theirs in the end).

I don't think it's fair at all to hold a grudge against people who just want to help because they feel compelled to. There aren't enough people in the world who are willing to do that, and slapping away the hand that offers help certainly doesn't make people want to continue helping in the future.

Pin · Post by **Pin** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:24 am

Hmm. Now, I am reminded of learning recently of how far my epilepsy may stick with me.

I have not had nocturnal seizures since the time I began taking Tegretol (and its generic tablet form Carbemazepin). However, the dosage I have been taking is half the minimum. Although my small dosages have been successful for three years, there is now no guarantee that, if taken off the medication, I will live a life without seizures.

I am troubled by the notion of being obligated to a medication for life, though I'm optimistic that I will pwn that disease pretty hard.

I would also like to remind myself of a man who was in a smiliar state as me, but had it much worse, and tended to have seizures more often. Despite that he lived his life with them, he did accomplish much in his life.

His name is Julius Caesar.

I would like nothing more than to pwnz as much as he did.

MahoNPC · Post by **MahoNPC** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:27 am

Its not like I have a problem with it,its just that question is personal.Its not like I don't like help..but the ones who DO try to help,they are TRYING to make me feel stupid.*hugs Sora*I feel alittle bit better,but knowing that there are just alot of mean people out there who are willing to take the chance to call me names without knowing i'd slap them across the face.>< I just find it strange how people have this weird thing against me,its kinda "mean" in a way,and it hurts alot when I can't even have a b/f because no guy wants to date a mute girl >< Theres just nothing wrong with being mute..the only problem is that I can't speak..

Invisible Egg! · Post by **Invisible Egg!** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:31 am

MahoNPC wrote:I can't even have a b/f because no guy wants to date a mute

No offense to anybody, but I think women tend to talk too much. I prefer more reserved women (not submissive, just reflective). Maybe if I was mute my girlfriend wouldn't argue with me so much.

MahoNPC · Post by **MahoNPC** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:32 am

Your lucky I am even talking right now ^^;; I usually never talk..

Invisible Egg! · Post by **Invisible Egg!** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:35 am

I just meant that I don't find your being mute to be an unattractive quality, that's all. I'm not hitting on you, though. It was meant as a compliment.

MahoNPC · Post by **MahoNPC** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:37 am

Fine,then some girl who dresses up as Maho just to entertain the cute children of my apts

If you come to japan,find a pair of apts with a chick dressed up as Maho hopping around =) Don't worry,I usually get hit on anyways..not that i'm saying you are.

Rubedo · Post by **Rubedo** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:39 am

MahoNPC wrote:The reason is VERY personal..I rather not talk about it,so just back off of the subject ><

I apologize. I didn't mean to sound rude.

MahoNPC · Post by **MahoNPC** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:41 am

*hugs Rubedo*Salright,my buddy,old pal,old friend =)

Rubedo · Post by **Rubedo** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:50 am

MahoNPC wrote:*hugs Rubedo*Salright,my buddy,old pal,old friend =)

Hahahaha... You said that just like my dear Eden. ^_^

MahoNPC · Post by **MahoNPC** » Fri May 23, 2003 2:52 am

o.o lol well I guess i do..whoever that is ^^;; You remind me of Link & Chipp(aka Ethan),he's very...balmung-ish..damn..I have the old X-men theme stuck in my head now

Sora · Post by **Sora** » Fri May 23, 2003 6:28 am

It's difficult to get through life with any disorder. People are, as I said, always going to feel weird about stuff like that. It's human nature. However, it causes us with those differences to feel left out, certainly.

There's one thing that I learned, however, involving my own problems. When you have been assaulted by assumptions by other people, or cruelty, or things like that, you become extremely defensive. You start assuming that people are being 'mean' or 'cruel' when really, you're assuming too much. Some people just say things one way and mean them another. Once I realized this, I realized that most of the time, it was -me- being cold and cruel to people who were being friendly or joking around.

This has, of course, taken a great deal of stress out of my life and has allowed me far more opportunities of friendship or relationships than I would have had before.

This isn't something you can do overnight.. it takes a while, and it takes a willingness to take risks or open yourself up to being hurt by people who maybe -are- being mean just to be mean.

But I can't assume, for myself, that people are being mean to me when they say something that bothers me. More often than not, they're really not being mean and I've simply read too much into it.

No, going through life and not being 'normal' on the surface is rough. No doubt about it. But there are people out there who -do- look past these kinds of things, but sometimes they're not easy to find. Sometimes, they're the people who tease you the most.. not to be mean, but to try and get to know you. I can't claim to know WHY they choose that route, but it's worth it to play along, more often than not.

Oh, in case anyone is wondering about my particular 'problem', I've said it too many times to care anymore. I have Tourette's syndrome and Trichotillamania (or however it is spelled), which has caused me far too much trouble in my life. However, it's helped me understand human nature and how they react to these things.. and it's helped me change my own life to better 'fit in', and at the same time be an individual.

Well, for anyone who has these problems.. good luck, ne?